Soon after my discharge from Rogers, I started to feel this deep appreciation for certain people. It is something I have rarely felt before.
It’s a feeling that makes me want to run up to someone, envelop them in a warm hug, and let them know how much their existence means to me. I wish there were words to describe how the little things they do, impact my life as a whole, despite how meaningless or effortless they might appear to other people. Some people need to hear it, and I have made it a strong habit to let people know repeatedly that they mean something.
I don’t do it just for the sake of making them feel good about themselves and the things they do, but rather because it takes a weight off of my shoulders and rewards me by making me feel like I have done something good.
To me, people seem to get the most benefit out of their life when they are grateful for the people who they have came in contact with throughout it.
As Carl Rogers put it, “The good life is a process, not a state of being.”
That is a quote I try to live by. For those of you who seem to be struggling, and who are by far completely over people claiming that “things get better”, be sure you are aware that time heals most things. Perhaps you haven’t met the one person who will change your life for the better. Granted, that doesn’t mean they are not out there.
Maybe, if you haven’t met that person, that person is you.
“It happens like this.
One day you meet someone and for some inexplicable reason, you feel more connected to this stranger than anyone else–closer to them than your closest family. Perhaps this person carries within them an angel–one sent to you for some higher purpose; to teach you an important lesson or to keep you safe during a perilous time. What you must do is trust in them–even if they come hand in hand with pain or suffering–the reason for their presence will become clear in due time.
Though here is a word of warning–you may grow to love this person but remember they are not yours to keep. Their purpose isn’t to save you but to show you how to save yourself. And once this is fulfilled; the halo lifts and the angel leaves their body as the person exits your life. They will be a stranger to you once more.”
~ Lang Leav